Traumatic events in our lives cause changes that may be emotional
or physical. There can be much pain, loneliness, grief and guilt. Some situations are caused by being naive, wanting to feel
a sense of belonging, an unusual event, death of a loved one or just uncontrollable circumstances. The point is,
that self-esteem, confidence and inner strength gets lower with each experience.
Confusion sets in and self-destructive habits may develop. A chain reaction of living
on the defensive with unhealthy, self-destructive patterns becomes a lifestyle. Then one day something or someone causes a
turn around in our thinking.
Right or wrong, maybe I did the best I could with what I had to work with, or maybe
there was no one there when I needed them. I am sure there are many who can identify with those words. Self blame and denial
has to end for any healing to take place. It is important to accept yourself as a unique and special person.
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A childhood
Identity
Teenage years
Sense of belonging
Loss of youth
Lack of friendships
Confidence
Self worth
Family
Of independence
Physical endurance
Near death experience
Bankruptcy
Loss of a child
What are some reasons for these changes? Children are molested, we may be rejected, discredited
or invalidated.
Experiencing teen-age pregnancies and early motherhood, rape, lack of confidence and self-worth
from emotional and physical abuse.
Lack of friendships from not being able to trust.
A sense of place in society as we know it from career loss, finances, divorce, death of
a mate or family member.
When there is a change in physical endurance from age, chronic pain or disability.
A frequently over-looked experience that has changed many is the "near death experience".
